reality questions

If we don't talk/interact/see one another... if I haven't heard from you in days/weeks/months/years... at what point should I start to wonder if you are still my friend/still ok/still exist?

How much longer/shorter is this interval if you use/don't use social networking sites, through which I could ascertain that you did in fact exist, just that we haven't been in touch?

When I disappear off the grid, as I tend to, at what point do you question my continued presence in the universe? Is there a time period? If I stop updating my facebook/twitter/flickr/blog how long do you wait before you worry/try to contact me to see if I am ok? Does commenting/'liking' someones updates mean you are in touch with them?
Who should have to contact who? Assuming that no "injury" has occured, and time and circumstance alone has discontinued contact? Not assuming that?
If you move to another country/city, does that make it your obligation because you made that choice and moved? Theirs because you have clearly gone through significant upheaval? Both because that is the obligation of friendship?

Does friendship have a time limit/expiry date? A threshold at which time heals the wound that is the distance between people, just as time binds people together to heal the wound that is lonelyness?
How long can I consider someone to be a close friend when they know nothing about what is going on in my life? And don't endevour to find out? At what point do you accept that a person has faded out of your life?

Also, if someone is getting married, but you can't attend for some reason (bearing in mind that many people consider marriage a big deal, and something that they expect their friends/family/acquaintances to go to great lengths and travel vast distances and spend a lot of money to attend said ceremonies) does that make you less friends with them because you didn't put in "more effort"? Or does it make them less friends with you for asking you to attend something when there were such significant obstacles between you and said attendance? Or does it change nothing in the grand scheme?

Maybe no one else will notice!

first, look in the sidebar! FISH!!!
You can click on their pool to feed them...

Yeah, I am a geek. Shhhhh, maybe no one else will notice!

second, today I plotted my blog posts over time to see if there was a specific time period in which I am most "productive". I write more in winter. I generally write nothing in January...

Yeah, I am a geek. Shhhhh, maybe no one else will notice!

third, I added a search bar so I could search my blog so that hopefully I wont harp on about the same topic over and over. I do this for you guys. Speaking of topics I harp on about, don't eat Tuna. It is unsustainable. They dont' start breeding till they are 20 years old, and we rip them out of the water at 10 years... the population is not replacing itself, and they can't be farmed because they are migratory. Every piece of tuna you eat could be your last ever - they are critically endangered, and our delightful government in all their glorious wisdom has increased the quota for them. Don't fight with me about this. Eating Tuna is like eating Kiwi, or tuatara, or orangutan, or giant panda or something like that. I don't care if it is tasty, cause you can't keep tuna in a zoo like those other animals so once they are gone you will have no one to blame but yourself.

Yeah, I am a geek. Shhhhh, maybe no one else will notice!

edit ~ also, I did a quiz online - obviously a totally reliable source of information and opinion on me as a person, knowing all my ins and outs and ups and downs more intimately than I know them myself... - it told me that I was J.D. Salinger. The writer famous for writing endlessly and not publishing anything because he didn't want the attention (good or bad) and a total recluse. Do you think that means I should put my writing "out there" a little... like actually post it some times? Or do you think that what it actually means is that I take myself and online quizes too seriously?