If we don't talk/interact/see one another... if I haven't heard from you in days/weeks/months/years... at what point should I start to wonder if you are still my friend/still ok/still exist?
How much longer/shorter is this interval if you use/don't use social networking sites, through which I could ascertain that you did in fact exist, just that we haven't been in touch?
When I disappear off the grid, as I tend to, at what point do you question my continued presence in the universe? Is there a time period? If I stop updating my facebook/twitter/flickr/blog how long do you wait before you worry/try to contact me to see if I am ok? Does commenting/'liking' someones updates mean you are in touch with them?
Who should have to contact who? Assuming that no "injury" has occured, and time and circumstance alone has discontinued contact? Not assuming that?
If you move to another country/city, does that make it your obligation because you made that choice and moved? Theirs because you have clearly gone through significant upheaval? Both because that is the obligation of friendship?
Does friendship have a time limit/expiry date? A threshold at which time heals the wound that is the distance between people, just as time binds people together to heal the wound that is lonelyness?
How long can I consider someone to be a close friend when they know nothing about what is going on in my life? And don't endevour to find out? At what point do you accept that a person has faded out of your life?
Also, if someone is getting married, but you can't attend for some reason (bearing in mind that many people consider marriage a big deal, and something that they expect their friends/family/acquaintances to go to great lengths and travel vast distances and spend a lot of money to attend said ceremonies) does that make you less friends with them because you didn't put in "more effort"? Or does it make them less friends with you for asking you to attend something when there were such significant obstacles between you and said attendance? Or does it change nothing in the grand scheme?
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